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Hi Reader, I almost got completely swept away by a house this week. We've been quietly thinking about whether we need more space. The boys share a room and are starting to want their own, which works, but it leaves me without a dedicated office. So we've been toying with an extension or a move. Nothing urgent, just that low-level hum of "something needs to change eventually." And then this house came up. Beautiful. Move-in ready. No renovation needed. I went to see it and immediately called my husband from the driveway, completely gushing. And then my brain caught up with my feelings. Master bedroom was huge but the walk-in robe was tiny. Our stuff would never fit. The architectural staircase looked stunning and was completely impractical for two boys who careen through every room at full speed. No banisters at the bottom. No storage anywhere. And honestly, overpriced. By the time I'd talked it through out loud, the spell had broken entirely. It made me think about how quickly something shiny and new can pull our attention away from what's right in front of us. And how sometimes the thing that needs work isn't the house. It's just that we haven't fully seen what we already have. Which, as it turns out, is exactly what I want to talk to you about today. This week I've been thinking about a kind of exhaustion that doesn't look like exhaustion. You're still showing up. Still delivering. Still holding everything together. But you're running on residual energy. Not thriving energy. The stuff that's left after everything else has taken its cut. I know this from the inside. I spent years working 15-hour days, cortisol waking me at 3am, panic attacks becoming part of my week. I normalised all of it. I genuinely thought that was just what ambition required. The shift didn't come from working smarter. It came from understanding that my nervous system needed a signal to come down. Not just permission, but a consistent, physical cue. For me that was movement at lunchtime, three days a week, scheduled in my work diary like any other meeting. Teams told. Meetings that ran over, declined. Not because exercise is magic. Because it gave my body a reliable signal that I was safe to come down. This week's question: what's one thing draining you that you haven't named yet? Not to fix it. Just to name it. Awareness is always the first move. Hit reply and tell me. I read every one. If something in this landed and you'd like to explore what this shift could look like for you, I'd love to have a conversation. Book your free Discovery Call here: https://calendly.com/alishawaterman/exploration-session In joy, |
Hi Reader, The school holidays just ended. If you are a working parent you will know exactly what I mean when I say that the fortnight before the end of term I was already doing mental gymnastics trying to figure out how we were going to manage two weeks with the boys at home. There has been a lot in the news lately about the childcare gap that school holidays create. And what strikes me every time I read about it is how neatly it gets framed as a logistics problem. A scheduling challenge....
Hi Reader, Last week my husband came into the front room to tell me he had bought tickets to see Stevie Wonder in concert in London in November. What he forgot to mention until he was standing right in front of me was that he had bought two. I am going too. Here is how it happened. Ed is a huge Stevie Wonder fan and when tickets came up I told him he should book. You never know when it will be the last time you get to see someone like that live. He asked me multiple times if I was sure and I...
Hi Reader, September had me in a funk. I do not say that lightly, and I do not say it to perform vulnerability. I say it because I think you might recognise this feeling and I want you to know it is not just you. It was not sadness exactly. It was more like going through the motions while simultaneously feeling a low hum underneath everything. Like something was gathering. Like the energy around me was quietly rearranging itself and nobody had told me what it was rearranging into. And here is...